Details of Acceptance

The Gua Lou melon’s peel helps the chest feel more open.

About this formula

Acceptance (herbal support) is the Chinese herbal breakthrough that helps you get past the pain of heartbreak more quickly, more healthfully, and without the weight gain associated with “comfort foods”.

We all know that love comes, but sometimes it goes too. The profound suffering of heartbreak is even more difficult with the loss of a loved one. One option that shouldn’t be overlooked is Chinese herbal therapy for heartbreak pain.

Chinese medicine has a highly evolved way of looking at different kinds of pain, and heartbreak is no different. According to Chinese medical theory, strong emotions can impede the flow of qi-energy through the body.

In the case of heartache, that stagnation is taking place in the chest. You may feel a weight on your chest, experience frequent sighing, perhaps notice that your breathing is shallow.

Since qi helps blood move, when qi stagnates in the chest, the (Chinese concept of the) Heart can become under-nourished by blood and give rise to an apathetic or depressed mood. In delicate individuals, we may see heart palpitations, panic attacks, or insomnia. Many will feel impatient or ill at ease as well.

If the qi-energy stagnates in the digestive system, expect to find nausea, lack of appetite, belching or gas.

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Heartbreak can also impede some Lung functions. The (Chinese idea of the) Lungs are said to be particularly sensitive to grief or loss. When the Lungs become weakened by grief, their gas exchange functions can be impacted leading to fatigue, dizziness, or malaise.

This Chinese herbal formula helps calm the profound suffering of the Heart by targeting specific sensations that arise from grief.


Gua Lou Pi瓜蔞皮 trichosanthes peel Pericarpium Trichosanthis

  • Gua Lou is a little melon. The “pi” is the peel of the gua lou melon. It is used to stimulate the flow of qi in the chest. When the qi-energy is not flowing well in the chest, it causes one to sigh frequently possibly associated with the sensation that they can’t take a deep breath.

Xiang Fu 香附 cyperus, nut-grass rhizome Cyperi Rhizoma

  • This is another herb that stimulates movement and opening in the chest. Like Gua Lou Melon Peel above, it promotes qi circulation in the chest. However this herb also supports blood circulation as well. When the qi and blood are flowing well, there is no discomfort in the chest. No sense of that “broken heart” feeling. We commonly use this herb for frequent sighing. It belongs in this formula.

Dan Shen 丹蔘 salvia root Radix Salviae Miltiorrhizae, Salviae miltiorrhizae Radix [caution]

  • If qi stagnation causes blood stagnation, the Heart may be under-nourished by blood. Blood deficiency in the Heart can lead to an apathetic or depressed mood. Dan Shen is often added to formulas that promote cardiovascular health too.
  • Delicate individuals may also have heart palpitations, panic attacks, or insomnia as these three symptoms can be associated with under-nourished Heart functions according to Chinese medicine.
  • This herb is cool in nature too. Suffering can be partially addressed by cooling the Heart. Think of this as turning down the passion just a tad. Heat in the heart can also cause excessive passion or a sense of being ill at ease.

Hou Po 厚朴 magnolia bark Cortex Magnoliae Officinalis [use caution if pregnant]

  • This herb moves the qi, but it also dries dampness. Damp is the outcome of inefficient digestion. It leads to gurgling, and nausea. When qi stagnation hits the chest, it causes frequent sighing, but when it hits the digestive organs, it causes nausea, bloating and gas. Hou Po Magnolia bark helps regulate the nervous system behind all these events.

Zhi Shi 枳實 unripe bitter orange, chih-shih Aurantii Fructus immaturus [use caution if pregnant]

  • Another herb that addresses qi stagnation in both the chest and digestive organs, it helps the qi in both the chest and stomach descend. When Lung or chest qi doesn’t descend, it causes shallow breathing. When Stomach qi doesn’t descend, it causes nausea, belching and a loss of appetite.

Huai Xiao Mai 浮小麥 light wheat grain Tritici Fructus Levi

Huang Qi 黃耆 astragalus root, milk-vetch root, milkvetch root Astragali Radix

  • Most of this formula is devoted to the movement of qi and blood. Huang Qi is more about Lung functions. As mentioned above, grief damages the Lungs. Huang qi repairs that damage. The use of huang qi astragalus supports healthy gas exchange which means you’re going to get more oxygen in your blood stream. Remember that a Lung qi deficiency can cause fatigue, dizziness, or malaise.
  • Huang Qi is also famous for “lifting the clear yang” which is to say that it clears your head. It makes you bright and shiny again. It gives you a whole new lease on life.

For frequent crying: add Licorice, Wheat and Jujube Decoction (Gan Mai Da Zao Tang).

NOTE: If you are suffering from intense pain in the chest that is NOT associated with an emotional loss or have a history of heart disease in your family, you should check in with your physician, or even an emergency room. This formula is NOT for a “heart attack”. Okay?

ANOTHER NOTE: Not everybody’s suffering will produce the most likely pattern of physical symptoms. There are many other ways in which qi stagnation can appear in your body. If you’d like a formula custom blended for your particular symptom pattern, consider a custom formula consultation.


    Eagle Herbs is now supplying a 2 gram “little spoon”. (Please wash and dry before using.)
    An “average dose” is 10 grams per day of the granules. This means 5 “little spoons” or 20 capsules each day. Each capsule is 1/2 gram. 
    A Big Dosage for Short-lived but intense issues: 3 little spoons (12 capsules) twice a day.
    A Smaller Dosage for Lingering low-grade concerns: 2 little spoons (8 capsules) twice a day. 
    If you are very sensitive to medicines: start out low (1/2 little spoon or 2 capsules) once per day, and raise the dosage each day.
    We find that people find the right dosage for themselves. We don’t know your body weight, your sensitivity etc… So take what feels good for you and you get the results you are looking for. Many people get great results with taking less. 

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2 thoughts on “Acceptance (Herbs for Heartbreak)”

  1. During these last couple weeks I have been completely tired, had no appetite, was mildly nauseated, morose, once again having familiar terrifying flashbacks of my childhood along with flashbacks of my own past mistakes while lying in bed at night – this is all rather old business and I thought I was well past a great deal of it – over the past 30 years I have been to different types of counseling, regressions, read and implemented many self-help books, done tons of work to take responsibility and let things go – but still there seems to be a very real physical component to my grief that I had not expected. Now it seems like the most obvious thing in the world…how could I not know that? I also noticed more and more congestion in my lungs and an incredibly heavy weight on my chest pressing at all times – much worse at night to the point I could barely breathe. That’s when I remembered reading about…


    I’ve taken 1 tsp. 3x daily since I started formula on 2/28/12. I had noticed your Acceptance formula from several months ago while reading about other formulas offered on your website. As I read about it I spontaneously and unexpectedly broke down and cried and cried. It was more than obvious to me that I was in need of Acceptance and hopefully I would know when it was time for this formula. When I began taking it, I noticed a difference almost immediately – within 2 days the congestion started breaking up at an incredible rate, if I felt sad, I was able to cry instead of feeling deadened to everything, I now don’t dread when I am hungry and it’s time to eat, the nausea is gone, I experience huge amounts of sighing. The sensation for me is like cutting into an old leathery, hardened and scarred, almost lifeless orb right down to its center and then directing the energy of the sun into that tiny space. If I get no further relief from this formula than what I have already had in the last 17 days, I am still thankful for what it has accomplished – it has literally been a life-saver.

  2. That’s really great, Cindy. Love to hear comments like this.

    This formula really gets in there to address physical symptoms of loss. There’s also a book that I like to refer to when dealing with loss.

    The Depression Book has carried me through a few dark hours. The goal of the book isn’t to make the sun rise, but to get accept the dark. That may not sound like much fun, but as hard as we try, nighttime always comes and the best thing we can do is be okay with it.

    There’s that Acceptance again.

    You can pick up The Depression Book: Depression as an Opportunity for Spiritual Growth by clicking on the title in this sentence.

    With love,

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